Have you been caught up in situations, where you are trying to hang on to something, that is just not going to turn out like you want it to. A "friendship", in which the person who is supposed to be a friend, keeps turning your life into a negative nightmare. Almost everytime you are having a good day, they come along and take all the air out of your happy balloon, and make you as miserable as they are. These are usually people who are so caught up in negativity, that the only thing they see, is dark and gloomy, and they will not be satisfied until you are down in that dismal place with them.
Or, are you in a relationship, with an individual, who you are always arguing with? You get along for a while, because you think you love this person, but somehow, the two of you end up in some kind of heated disagreement, constantly. It goes beyond the limits of civil discussion. You keep thinking well, he will change or she will change for the better. Well guess what, it's not going to happen. There is something fundamentally out of whack with the union. You and your partner, have some issue that has not been resolved, and unless that issue is talked about and dealt with, you are going to continue to wind up right back at that same point. You are chasing ghosts, either deal with the problem or move on. You want it to be honky dory, perhaps, this is not who you are able to be your best self with, sometimes love is not enough. Face reality, stop chasing something that you think should or will be. Same thing with the friendship, if someone, is going to rain on your parade all the time, how does that help your existence? Stop chasing ghosts, time is valuable, and we only have so much of it. Take charge of your life and make the changes, that are necessary to have a positive existence. Leave those ghosts in the past, and move on to a more productive and happy life. Peace is priceless. Take care.